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You Were Never Supposed to Do This Alone

Either way, you're going through it.

A woman facing an aggressive form of breast cancer said something that stopped me cold:

"Of course I was mad at God when I first started going through it. However, I realized — either way I'll have to go through this battle. It's a lot easier with God than without."

Read that again.

She didn't get a choice about the battle. None of us do. Adversity isn't optional. The storm doesn't ask for your permission before it arrives. The injury doesn't wait until you're ready. The loss doesn't schedule itself around your convenience. The only decision you actually get to make is whether you face it alone or with something — someone — bigger than yourself.

We've built this false narrative that suffering in silence is strength. That needing others is weakness. That the lone wolf who grinds through the darkness alone is somehow more impressive than the man who leans on his faith, his people, his community.

That's not strength. That's stubbornness dressed up as discipline.

And it's costing people everything.

I see it in athletes all the time. They're struggling — mentally, physically, spiritually — and the last thing they want to do is let someone in. Because somewhere along the way they were taught that needing help means you're not built for this. That asking for support is the same as admitting you can't handle it.

But here's what I know to be true: the athletes who break through — the ones who actually reach their ceiling — are never the ones who isolated themselves in the dark. They're the ones who had a coach who believed in them before they believed in themselves. A teammate who held them accountable when they wanted to quit. A faith that gave them something to anchor to when everything else was uncertain.

No one — not the greatest athlete, not the greatest leader, not the greatest human being to ever walk this earth — did anything meaningful entirely alone. They had coaches. Mentors. Faith. Family. A locker room. A community. Something outside of themselves that carried them when they couldn't carry themselves.

The goal was never to go through it alone.

The goal is to come out the other side.

And you will come out the other side a lot faster, a lot stronger, and a lot more whole when you stop treating isolation like a badge of honor. When you stop performing toughness for an audience that isn't even watching. When you finally allow yourself to be carried — even just a little — by the people and the purpose that are already there for you.

That woman didn't choose her battle. But she chose how she'd fight it. And that choice changed everything.

The battle is coming. For all of us. In different forms, at different times, with different stakes.

The question isn't whether you'll face it. The question is who — or what — you'll face it with.

Don't go through it alone.

Two Quotes

1. “The principle of moving forward, as though you have the confidence to move forward, eventually gives you confidence when you look back and see what you’ve done.” – Robert Downey, Jr.

2. “There are two pains in life. There is the pain of discipline and the pain of disappointment. If you can handle the pain of discipline, then you’ll never have to deal with the pain of disappointment.”— Nick Saban

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Colin Jonov, Founder & CEO Athletic Fortitude